I thrive on hugs!

One of the best rewards as a mother to little ones are the hugs and kisses they shower on me. How I miss it even for a day.

I was sick with fever and chills and warned the kids not to come near me in case I pass it to them. I felt really sick so I was really afraid of passing it to the kids.

Oh how I miss their hugs and kisses. I didn't realise it but I have gotten so used to their daily hugs and kisses. So have the kids. They are finding this "no hugging or kissing mummy" thing very hard to do, especially the younger one. He loves to be hugged and cuddled and kissed.

So I thought them how to do virtual hugs. We stand from across the room and pretend to hug the air then we blow kisses at each other. I can't wait to getting back to real hugs and kisses.

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Guilt laden Mommy

I feel guilty that I haven't been spending enough time teaching my boy. I spent more time teaching his sister before him because I had more time then.

But time is only an excuse. When somebody really, really wants to do something, they will be able to find the time for it.

So I'm laden with guilt. I should spend at least 1/2 hour or an hour in the morning teaching him when his sister is in school. After all that is what I am home for. I am home to spend time with the kids, not to blog. I keep telling myself that I will do it tomorrow.....

As a mommy, I feel lots and lots of guilt. I feel guilt when I don't spend enough time with the kids playing with them or teaching them. I feel guilty when I don't feed them proper nutritious foods but rely on fast foods when I don't have the time or when I am plain lazy. I feel guilty when I raise my hands on them in anger rather than to discipline. I feel guilty when they look over tired because they did not get enough rest. I could go on and on.

There is so much guilty feelings. I must learn to relax. A happy and relaxed mommy is better than one that is always worrying and feeling guilty. Then I feel guilty that I am not relaxing enough.....

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Mother's Day 2008

Just a short record of what we did to remind me in my old days. :)

It was business as usual. Hubby was sick. I woke up made breakfast for everybody. Cleaned up. Washed and hung up some clothes. Did some ironing. Then we went out to do our grocery shopping. We stopped at the bookshop to browse for a while. Then hubby said I could choose what to eat for lunch because it was Mummy's Day.

I saw that he was tired and just wanted to go home and we hadn't done our shopping yet so I picked Pizza to make the kids happy and so we could go home as soon as we could to rest. That made the boy cry because he wanted to eat McDonalds. He soon forgot his tears when he saw the sprite and the twisty garlic bread.

After our grocery shopping we came home to rest. We only woke up in time for dinner. We went out to nearby coffee shop for dinner. Again, hubby said I could pick the dishes because it was Mummy's Day. Haha. So we had steamed fish and butter prawns and omellettes. Hubby asked the kids to feed me the prawns because it was Mummy's Day and so they did, much to their delight.

When we got home, it was time to throw out the rubbish and boil water and time for bed again. A routine but nice day and sweet of hubby to remind the kids to think of "mummy" even though he was sick.

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Mother's Day - The Reality

The other day I wrote a Mother's Day Fantasy.

Baby Darren's Mommy has this to say...

"It is so funny that aren't we mothers supposed to spend our day with our children but it sounded just so ridiculous that most mothers (like Judy and MG) prefers to spend our Mother's Day away from the children instead.."

Haha. Yes it sound ridiculous and selfish that on the day called "Mother's Day" we want to "escape" from being a Mother for just a day. Anyway its just a daydream.

My Mother's Day reality will be something like this.

I will go grocery shopping as usual because hubby is busy this Saturday. So we have to get it done on Sunday. My girl will try to sing the Chinese Mother's Day Song which she has been practising all month long and kindy. "Mummy, if I can't remember how to sing the song, can I just do the actions or if I can't remember the actions, can I not sing at all?" Hahaha. Thats my girl. As for my boy, he will follow me around all day long trying to pinch my face. I wonder when he will grow out of this habit.

It will be a day just like any other day. But thats ok because I love them both very very much. Just having them is the best gift of all. And I am sure all mothers agree with me. :)

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Do you look like your mother?

Mother's Day is coming so I just want to reminisce about my mom a little bit. She died when I was 10.

Mom was beautiful. I'm afraid that none of her 3 daughters inherited her looks. Hahaha. No, I don't look like her but I've been told that I am rather like her. She was soft spoken. I'm supposed to be soft spoken too but you wouldn't know it when you hear me shouting at my kids. Haha.

Back to mum's looks. She had 5 of us to look after, make that 6 plus dad. She cooked and washed our family's clothing sitting down in the wet area of our house with several pails around her. Some were filled with soap and others with water for rinsing. Sometimes I would help her to rinse the clothes. She must have been pretty busy just looking after us but she still had time to pursue her favourite passtimes... baking and sewing. She was fantastic at both baking and sewing. How good it would be if she were alive or lived longer to teach me those things.

Anyway, I digress. Despite all this, she still had time to look after herself. I remember my mum putting creams on her face. Sometimes she would stand in front of the mirror and complain about her figure and asked us if she were putting on weight. Sometimes she would ask us to rub lime on her back so that she would have a smoother back I presume. In those days, people relied very much on home or alternative treatments. Mum never had the chance to try out all the types and varieties of creams and makeup that we have nowadays. Mum never even had a dressing table for what little things she had. Yet, she still tried to make and keep herself beautiful. We were poor back then. If only mum were still alive when we were a little bit better off. She worked so hard to take care of us but she never had the chance to enjoy any of the finer things in life.

Whats the point of this post? I don't really know. I just want to remember mum. Another thing, despite not getting her looks I should learn from her in looking after myself a little bit better. I think as a woman, we should all still be a little vain, in the sense that we should never let ourselves go completely. We should make the effort to dress up our face at least if not our bodies. Its good for the self esteem and overall confidence. Yes, that is what I shall try to learn from my mother.

What about the rest of you ladies. Do you look like your mother? Have you inherited any of her traits? What would you like to learn from her?

Anyway, Happy Mother's Day to all the Mother's who visit this blog. Hope you all have a good day. Despite my silly post the other day about Mother's Day Fantasy, the fact is all I am going to do on Mother's Day is stay home and be a MOTHER. The kids give me daily hugs and kisses so I'm going to enjoy that before they outgrow that! Lol!

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