Affection and Attention equals better behaved children

I am always telling the hubby "For every action there is a reaction" so please treat me or say things to me nicely or you may get a not very nice reaction or response in return. (He thinks I'm nuts but I do believe there is some truth in this rule).

However, I practise double standards and do not apply this rule to the children. (Its hard to be a good mother!) I really should practise it though because I can see the difference in their behaviour when I do.

On those days when I give them lots of hugs and cuddles and pay attention to what they say (keyword here is "attention") they love it and they behave like angels, like good little children should.

However on those days, when I'm very stressed or busy, I sometimes take it out on them (Its hard to be a good mother!) and I yell out to tell "Oh! Go and play by yourself and stop bothering me!" Now, thats when I see behavioural problem. They'd be unhappy and fight while they play, whine, and cry a lot.

I really should try to practise what I preach more often. For it really is true that "for every action there is a reaction". I should try not to take out my stresses on the poor little ones because when I do, it doesn't help at all. In fact it makes the situation worse!

This post is a reminder to myself to give the kids for affection and attention. Ok. I'm off now to give the kids some cuddles. :)

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