No time to blog

I have a new maid to help me with my housework but I have less time now. Isn't that crazy? Haha. Well, its only initially, I hope, as I get her accustomed to my house and how I like to do things around the house. I'm working on getting my house clean again. I'm trying to raise my standard of cleanliness. It has been so low for so long.

This morning, I climbed and cleaned all the fans in the house with the maid helping me to clean and change the wiping cloths along the way. It helps so much not to have to climb up and down and clean the cloths at the same time. Things get done so much faster this way. If not for her help, I probably wouldn't clean the fans till next Chinese New Year!

Why didn't I just ask her to wipe it on her own? Well, first, I wanted to show her how I like it wiped (the best way to teach someone is to show them how its done) and second, things really get done much faster this way and we can move along to other things. Crazy?

I'm afraid that when I had to do it on my own, I reduced my standard of cleanliness just so I wouldn't be overwhelmed by all the work. :P So now, I'm raising the bar again. But that leaves me with very little time to blog. I've not had the chance to blog hop for a while now. :(

Each time I open up my bloglines blogreader, I'm overwhelmed by the number of unread blog posts. It says 688 unread posts at the moment. I think I'm going to have to click "mark read" for all but thats hard to do. So, just give me a little time, and I will be back reading your blogs again. Now, I'm going to go and click "mark read" so I won't be overwhelmed by all the unread blogs. Lol!

Another thing, I get this "Wuah, you're not working and you have a maid to help you, you're really a tai tai now." Yah sure, I still have to manage my time very well and hopefully with better time management and planning, I can plan things for the maid to spend her time productively, effectively and efficiently so that I can have a cleaner house and more time to spend with the kids, and the hubby and my piano and my blog.

I don't think I can ever be labeled a tai tai. I still believe in doing most things myself. At the most, I'm a part time tai tai with an assistant. ;) Well, this part time tai tai has got to run now, to cook with the help of her assistant. Hehe.

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I wish I had more time for my second child

I wish I had more time for my second child. Oh, I have no problem spreading the love among the kids but its the time that I have a problem with.

With my first, I had the time to teach her in a structured but fun manner and as a result, I believe she has develop a love for learning and reading. And because of her love and keeness for learning, it is a joy to teach her.

However, when it comes to number 2, I haven't been able to spend the same amount of time teaching him. I really should commit more of my time for him. Half a year is over now and I haven't taught him in the way that I had envisioned or wished to.

All I did was take out his activity books and say "Nah, do this." Then I'd be off to do some other things. This is not the right manner of teaching. I can see the difference. When I do this, his attention span becomes less and after a while he says "Mummy, I am tired."

What our children want most of all from us, is our time and attention. When I sit down with them, with all my time and attention foccussed on them, then thats when I see their eagerness to learn and ask questions and I don't get "Mummy, I am tired." I get "Mummy, I want to have lessons."

Whats the point of this post? Well, I just feel guilty and I feel bad. I must think of a way to adjust my schedule to include daily one to one teaching time with him. Yes, thats it. Thats what I will do. Time to go off and put on my thinking hat now.

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Choose your bedtime stories carefully

Last night we were reading Hansel and Gretel. The story was sad. The children's mother had died and the father remarried. The step mother then persuaded the father to get rid of the children by leaving them in the middle of the forest. At the end of the story the step mother had died and the children's father welcomed the children back into the home when they found their way home.

What kind of a father is that anyway!!!!!! After the story and the lights were off, my boy asked me "Mummy, what happens to you after you die?"

Uh Oh! Does that happen to you? There are many seemingly harmless fairytales and classics that just aren't all that suitable at bedtime.

My kids are often frightened by the wolf in Little Red Riding Hood and The Three Little Pigs or that awful troll in the Three Billy Goats Gruff.

Then theres the mother duck who rejects her baby just because he's The Ugly Duckling and there's Jack who went to steal things from the Giant in Jack and The Beanstalk. I'm not sure these are values I want to teach my children ie stealing and rejecting someone because of their looks.

Next time I should really choose the bedtime stories carefully before I read them to the kids! Lol.

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When mommy goes out and leaves the kids with daddy

Why is it that when daddy goes out and leaves the kids with mommy, he just strolls out the door, just like that?

But when mommy goes out and leaves the kids with daddy, she has to....... scuttle around and make sure that....

• the kids are fed/bathed/napped
• the food/milk is prepared beforehand
• daddy knows where to find the food/milk/kids clothes
• daddy knows what time to feed the kids/get the kids to nap
• etc etc etc (fill in the list yourself)

And when daddy comes home, he just strolls in through the door, just like that and the kids are fed/bathed/napped.

But when mommy comes home, she is faced with a mini chaos...

• If lucky enough to find kids napping, there will be milk bottles/dishes in the sink to clean up
• If lucky enough to find the kids bathed, there will be clothes strewn all over the bed/floor/chairs
• If lucky enough to find that the kids have eaten, they may be running around sweating/sleepy but still having fun refusing to sleep

Hmmm......... is it like that in your home too?

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